“Lights will guide you home and I will try to fix you”

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I just finished Out of Reach by Carrie Arcos and it was amazing. I had a funny feeling that I was going to love it when I first picked it up. And I was right. The story of a girl searching for her drug addicted brother tugged at my heartstrings so very much.

It was just amazing, Rachel had to let him go. She couldn’t hang unto her brother forever, because he had made his own choices and now he had to live with them. She couldn’t save or fix him.

I was tearing up and I could tear up now just thinking about the ending and certain parts of the book that were just so beautiful. The author put my thoughts and emotions into words. She made them real.

I’ve learned in life that sometimes, no matter how much you love someone, you have to let them go. You have to realize that you can’t save them. Because people make their own choices. We all screw up.

As much as I wish I could save people in my life, or saved. Depends on how you look at it…..I can’t. None of us can. Because saving people is something that only happens in the movies or a cliche-ridden romance novel.

Yes, we can lend a hand or help someone through a dark point. Yet at the same time (go ahead and call me hopeless) I really don’t think you can save someone. Because sometimes they have to suffer through the pain alone. We can’t take it away from them or make it better. No matter how much we wish or pray that we could.

This is their fight.
And we have to let them win it.
If they win they’ll come out stronger and a better person.
Or maybe they’ll lose.
Either way.
It’s their fight.
It’s not ours.
No matter how much we love them.

All we can do is love them through it all and cherish memories of the person that they used to be. We don’t have to love their choices or the things they do. We can just love the memories. And pray. Pray that one day it’ll be ok.

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